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Why you shouldn’t stay in that dead-end job

Statistics show we spend 13 years over a lifetime working and 11 years, 4 months staring at a screen (Huffpost Australia, 2017). That’s a huge amount of time we spend waking up and going to work repeatedly, day in, day out. Even worse if you are doing this whilst in a dead end job or in a job you can’t stand. So why allow yourself to continue living that way? Understandable in the world we life in today most of us can’t afford to just quit our jobs, make businesses, travel the world, do whatever we like (I applaud people who do). We have bills to pay, family liabilities etc; to summaries, we need money. Due to this leaving a job isn’t as easy as it sounds however life is to be enjoyed.

Spending this much time at work has a big impact on our health and lifestyle. The majority of us snack and put on weight, may have problems with management or colleges, even problems with the organisation overall. These have affects on us whether it enhances stress, triggers the lose of motivation or ambition, it happens.

Think about what you once wanted to do with your life; your deepest ambitions. Don’t settle for anything less. You may not be able to quit your job but you can move on, better your self professional and more importantly work on your happiness. If you can afford to quit your job, take time out to create a plan and draw up options in order to find something you really enjoy.

Being in a dead end job affects your mood and mental health so ask yourself if its worth your sanity. Older generations will say they have been in the same job for 20+ years but 90’s babies and below well probably go through 3-5 within the first 10 years of leaving college or university and I think its brilliant as we get a feel for what is out there, what we like and how we expect to be treated.

Don’t spend 13 years thinking what if.  

How to lose weight in the office

  • Substitute lunch breaks for time in the gym if you have a gym locally or within the building. If you have an hour for lunch, 20-30mins can be spent in the gym
  • Stop snacking. This will seem impossible at first however after a week has passed it will get easier to just stick to breakfast and lunch at work.
  • If you have tried and really cannot give up snacking. Swap crisps and chocolate for fruits, hummus, boiled eggs etc.
  • Lower tea and coffee intake
  • Get up for 10mins every hour and have a walk
  • Get your whole team involved in healthy eating; possibly make it into a competition
  • Early morning smoothies (homemade)
  • If you live local to work, forget public transport and begin to work to & from work (for the first 2 weeks start by walking home from work)
  • Find a work colleague who is willing to keep motivating you
  • Add the gym to your routine before or after work a few times a week
  • Manage lunch portions and the times you eat to avoid overeating
  • Check your work intranet for any health or fitness weeks or competitions you can get involved in

Period work out

The menstrual cycle controls our mood the whole month and we don’t even realise. The assumption that we cry and eat our feelings through the 7-day bleed (or however long) is not always correct.

Some symptoms may be present for the whole month whether physical or mental however they become more present the week before or the week of.

Mentally the cycle can bring on distress, anxiety, upset and mood swings. I don’t tend to have these signs but a week beforehand I tend to lose motivation and gain self-doubt and low mood. So how do I still manage to get to the gym?

It’s not easy. I’m very organised and stick to a routine. Due to the routine. The thought of sitting at home on my period doesn’t sit well with me. I’d end up feeling fat (due to the bloating) and blah that I let this get the better of me. So I just don’t sit around. I get up and keep life moving.

I’ve come to realise I feel a lot better when I go to the gym and keep active whilst on my period. I feel the need to keep my muscles moving and to take my mind of the situation. The aim is to keep my endorphins at a high in order to keep my well-being at bay. The downfall to going to the gym on my period is having to focus more on what I wear. I usually put on anything and go, but whilst on my period if the black leggings aren’t around I’m not going. If the leggings aren’t thick enough I’m not going. I don’t care whether the panty line is obvious, people in the gym shouldn’t be looking at me anyways but the key whilst on the period is to feel comfortable. This is a reason why a lot of women I know don’t go to the gym during this time however, think about the ways to get around it. My gym has a women-only section so that is my back-up if I begin to feel uncomfortable in general public (sounds like I’m talking about jail). I don’t do heavy weights and I tend to walk instead of run on the treadmill as during the week on period my legs get very weak to the point it looks like I’m shaking to stay standing.

Become adaptable and don’t use your period to sit at home feeling sorry for being a woman and complaining at men have it better than us. Keep it moving!

Don’t be on your phone all day

You miss the world when you’re constantly on your phone. Yes, you can catch up with daily events on news websites, social media etc but it isn’t the same as putting the phone down and having real experiences.

People seem to live on their phones nowadays. I’ve watched people be so consumed by their phones, they’ve walked into lamp posts, other people or nearly killed themselves crossing the road. How sad.

Before phones, if you wanted to see someone you had to either arrange a meeting from the last time you saw them or go to their house. It’s nice now being able to send a message or make a quick call but we are now fixated on our phones that we are not paying attention to what is happening around us. Even now, we sit down to chill with our friends and we’re on our phones.

This is probably why we are so ‘sensitive’ now as we want the appraisal of people we don’t know by updating pictures, commenting on people we don’t know, expecting the know celebrities lives better than we know our own neighbours.

Sometimes, especially when I get home from work I don’t want to be on my phone. I’ll put it on my bedside table and it would stay there all evening. To be away from the phone and have time to relax, read a book, listen to music, go to the gym, go on a walk, spend time with family are just a few things I like to do after work that we take for granted. We need to spend time detoxing instead of checking what’s new on Snapchat and Instagram.
Start getting back into the habit of living and try putting your phone on silent a few times a week as a cleanse.

Why I no longer work in an office

Once I graduated from Uni I went straight into office work. Like a typical graduate, I went straight into recruitment but I wasn’t on the phones thankfully, I was interviewing potential candidates. I had studied in a Hotel School so did back office work but being in an actual office environment was new to me and at the time I wasn’t that bothered about working at a desk all day. Being from a Hotel background I was used to being constantly on my feet, then going out with friends until 4 am.

It was my first job, straight out of Uni, working in busy Soho; I would go to work, socialise with friends on weekdays, work was never a barrier for me. At Uni I was so determined to get into Learning & Development so I always assumed office life would be it for me and no professionals at Uni told me otherwise.

Over the years I continued with office work. I began to realise office work wasn’t for me; I’ve gone from running around Hotels and working in Hospitality to now sitting behind a computer. In the office roles I’ve had, I never felt challenged and I always got through probation and all the tasks quicker than expected and I’m someone who needs to be kept on their toes. In all roles I’ve made good people, some I now consider as friends but being in my mid 20’s, working in an office is something I just can’t comprehend doing for the rest of my life.

I may have left Uni in 2015 but I’ve continued studying ever since to stand out in the world of Learning & Development but as I realised I had enough of office work, I started looking at other ways of accomplishing this goal. I wanted to be a trainer; hence why I went to a training school however I, unfortunately, fell into the corporate world.

After 4 years in an office environment, feeling unappreciated, depressed and overall in a dead-end environment I knew it was time for me to step away from the desk. I took time off (a month) to find what I wanted to do. Now…I’m a trainer and I don’t work in an office. Every day for me now is different and it’s honestly the first job I can honestly say I enjoy. I’ve found peace; I’m happier and I don’t miss sitting in an office, in fact, I can’t imagine going back to an office environment just yet. I like to keep motivated and keep my mind active but in the office, I felt like I was losing brain cells. I’ll soon return to office work for financial and career development but I would advise everyone to take time away from the office and try a new method.

Every role has its problems and everyone has days when we’d rather stay in bed but we spend nearly our whole lives working, so find your passion and a job that’s worth getting up and going to.

Review: Skin care products

PROS

Refreshing for beginning or the day and end of the day use.
Feels like a deep cleanser with a water base.
I have oily skin so this provides a balance. Works slowly but surely to tone marks/scars.

CONS

I read a lot about this and saw loads of before and answer pictures from women in the US (this is a US product) and having tried that I know for sure not all those women purely used this to fight spots & acne.
Read it gets rid of blackhead and blemishes quickly but this wasn’t the case for me.

PROS

Good awakening feeling when using this in the morning; refreshing.
I have oily skin and a lot of products don’t agree with me but this takes away the constant shine and really gets into the pores.

CONS

None that I can think of. A great addition to the beauty routine.

PROS

Very effective in a short amount of time.
Feels like a deep clean.
I personally use the Biore Deep Pore Charcoal Cleanser in the morning and Biore Baking Soda! In the evening for an intense wash.
After 2 weeks I noticed it prevented reoccurring spots.
Nice foam texture.

CONS

Honestly, no cons that I can think of. I would recommend this product.

PROS

Nice texture.
Leaves the skin feeling refreshed.

CONS
Takes a long time (months) to notice any skin difference using this mask.

PROS

Big container and can easily last up to a year if used once a year as instructed.
Feels intense and really does get deep into the pores
Removes hidden dirt from the skin

CONS
It’s hard to get the ratio of powder to apple cider/water right.
Whether mixing with Apple Cider Vinegar or water after 2 minutes my skins feel like it’s burning. Be careful with this mask as it depends on skin type (like most products).
Preparing the mixture is messy.

PROS

Out of all the products I’ve reviewed, I’ve had this one the longest (beginning of the year) so it does last a long time.
As a 3 in 1 depending on how much time you have, it can either use it as a face wash or keep it on for longer to use as a mask.
The scrub partials while get to work on pores.
As mentioned on the label, it works effectively for oily skin.

CONS

I’ve used other products since purely because this hasn’t kept spots at bay.
No noticeable difference from before I used it in comparison to weeks afterwards.
As a mask, it is difficult to wash away from the skin.

Exotic is not a compliment

My friends and I all have different taste. Not one of my friends would describe their dream guy the same as the other; we all see this is a good thing, however, due to this we come across guys of different races, cultures, experiences, walks of life. We all meet people in different ways but in a recent discussion, I’ve realised some guys make comments that just aren’t okay and it’s not just me that thinks this. Turns out we’ve all had ‘compliments’ that are really ignorant.

Being called exotic isn’t a compliment. I’m no pineapple or guava.

Due to this discussion I’ve put together a list of all the disastrous comments we’ve gathered over the years:

  • “you’re pretty for a black girl”. Seriously, what is that meant to mean? And what made you think I’d take that as a compliment?
  • “You’re nice but I only date Indian girls. Mum wouldn’t like you”
  • “So was you born here? What about your parents?”. If it was a general conversation this is okay but it is usually questioned in finding out whether we have an accent or/and a passport which is a no-no
  • “Do you have a Jamaican accent?”
  • *Love-struck emoji* “I love reggae”. Okay, because as a black people I must love reggae too? (I do, but that’s not the point)
  • “Do you smoke weed?” Because apparently, that’s all we do?
  • “Always like black girls but never had one”. Who said you’ve got me? Want to catch something? Play Pokemon
  • “You’re so tropical” *love-struck emoji* I’m from outside the UK calm down
  • “I can handle you”
  • “Black girls are always angry, chill”. The black woman probably said nothing to deserve this comment but the stereotype of anger seems to pop up every now and then
  • “I bet you know how to cook. Do you make jerk chicken?”
  • “So do you know your dad?” what ignorance is this?
  • “Why are you not wearing a bindi?” again ignorance in thinking all Asian women wear bindis

And that’s just to mention a few. I feel like I just wrote a ‘how to date a black or Asian woman’ post but people need to know this because the world is full of ignorance. Guys if you’re interested in dating a black or Asian woman, stop saying the above, you won’t get far and we are not a fetish.