Work: Why you shouldn’t settle

You should never settle when it comes to working. Think about how long you spend at work per week. Then think about how long you’ll be spending working over your lifetime. You might be comfortable due to location, accessibility, colleague friendships but what about ambition, goals and the question of what if which we all ask ourselves. 

To not settle you first need to have a goal set and understand your worth. When I first graduated I use to apply for jobs between £15-20k, non-managerial, no experience required because I was so use to seeing ‘unfortunately’ emails when I applied for anything else. I had experience in what I was applying for and due to University, I had the knowledge but the one thing I didn’t know was my worth. It took me years to build confidence and know my worth and that was due to constantly bettering myself with qualifications and by having the right colleagues in my corner to motivate me. “What do you have to lose if you apply for a £30k job”, one colleague said to me and it’s true. The con would be another ‘unfortunately’ email, whereas pros would be they see something in me to move me through the interview stage or even offer me the job. 

Until I meet my goal, I never get comfortable in a job. I constantly search to see what jobs are out there. I don’t necessarily apply for them all, but it’s good to understand when during the year more jobs are available and to see what companies are doing in comparison to where you are now. As I said above, it took me a while to know my worth and now, as long as the position looks right for me and the money (including benefits) looks right for me I will shoot my shot and apply. I will only be holding myself back if I don’t.

There will be times when you know your worth and where you wish to be in life however, you might not be ready at that moment in time and that’s ok. If you think you want to be promoted or you want a certain managerial role however you’ll be readier in 2 years, do what you need to do for your CV and character to stand out in 2 years. If you hit the 2-year mark and the promotion isn’t available or there’s no job within that company you want, don’t be afraid to move on. Find a place that is willing to offer you exactly what you’re looking for. That could take a long time and out of anyone I know this, but sometimes you need to leave a position, take time out, wait and soon enough the right position will come along. If not, think about what is missing. Maybe you need a certain qualification to stand out, or maybe you are looking for work in the wrong location.

If you get to the stage where you have got everything you can out of your job and the company, ask yourself why you’re not pushing yourself further or ask yourself what your next step is. It’s easy to stick to what you know and to get comfortable within that environment. If you’re content then do what you need to do, however, if you’re sitting at work and you feel like something is missing that could be your mind telling you it’s time for a change or to be your own boss.

Plot twist:

Be aware of who you confide in at work. Not everyone you smile at is your friend. Just as you have an end goal, someone else you work with does too, and it might just be that your goals are the same. Sometimes healthy competition is needed at work however don’t let people take advantage of you and don’t get left behind. I’ve met some genuine people in previous roles, some I now consider my closest friends, but I have seen people get double-crossed and I have seen workplaces go from sweet to sour. Keep reminding yourself work is work and home is home. Focus on yourself and remember your journey.

To Spend or To Save?

A lot of us want to travel more, have breaks from work and eat out at the nicest restaurants but we also want to save for the future, have a mortgage, live comfortably. With a lot of jobs not paying enough and the economy today, it’s hard to have the best of both worlds. So, to stay on track, in an attempt to live in both worlds, here are a few things you can do to save money:

  • Have a personal bank account as well as 1-2 saving accounts; be sure to put 70% of your monthly wage in the saving accounts.
  • In line with that, transfer money into saving accounts monthly and have the will power to not take money out of these accounts.
  • Research/get into investments (shares, houses etc.)
  • If you have a business idea, write up a proposal and go for it.
  • Limit how much you spend weekly (through your personal account). Example, how much you go out, how much you eat out.
  • Only buy what you need, not what you want.
  • If there is something you need, look out for discounts or sales.
  • If you need extra assistance, make use to piggy bank apps, help to buy accounts, Monzo.
  • A great search for knowledge is money supermarket expert wesbite.
  • Make cut backs if possible. For example, if you pay for the gym but don’t go, do you really need to keep the membership?
  • If you have time and are willing, you can take on a second job (part- time).
  • If you’re not happy where you work, use this time to progress with your career. This might lead to a promotion or a job with a salary increase.
  • Look back on my previous post on saving money during the summer. It looks at how to have fun on a budget.

Be Impulsive

Being impulsive has got me far in life and so far so good. My personality is pretty spontaneous and if anyone has been on my Instagram, you’ll see my posts are very random. My spontaneousness shows in all aspects of my life. It had led me to travel alone, handing in my notice from a vile job (with no job to go into), arranging cute dramatic dates with my friends, making new memories. Not only would life be dull without this personality trait but I would have never had some of the opportunities I’ve had without out it.

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I’ve always wanted to blog but never had the time to. After leaving my job last year I had nothing to go into. I had back up money, faith in my decision and didn’t want to be treated a certain way so I left without warning. I deserved a break anyways but I didn’t take a break. I got into volunteer work, found part-time work, started coaching and mentoring and made a website for my blog at last. It was a long time coming but I needed a moment to think and take a leap of faith. Yes, I am now in full-time work but beforehand I would have never believed I could have done this. It took an act of impulse to sit down on a day off whilst part-time and put together what I have now. That’s one out of many experiences I could share but the point is being impulsive has paid off. Sometimes impulsive behaviour rubs off on others for the better and provides a lift of confidence.

Being impulsive can be risky but it is riskier on health to do nothing at all but think ‘what if’. Never let your mind hold you back otherwise you’ll never move forward.

Whats on your bucklist?

Most people make new year resolutions but I’ve never seen the point in them unless you’re someone who genuinely sticks to resolutions and follows them through to the end. Personally I like to make a bucket list at the beginning of summer. It gives me enough time to think about what I want to do and usually summer brings on ‘good vibes’ which means I’m more liking to do what I want to do rather than during the Winter.

Recently I’ve been busy focusing on blogging and working so my list this year is very short but I don’t put a deadline on when activities and tasks need to be completed.

I love the feeling of accomplishing what I have set out to do and it’s nice to write down my plans and tick them off once they have been completed, instead of sitting at work, feeling as if I’m wasting time.  

For now, I want to travel around the UK more, maybe head towards Scotland, revisit the Lake District and continue my quest to find the best mac and cheese in London.

I want to make the most of all my qualifications and find the dream job, get on the housing ladder within the next 2-3 years and focus more on me.

So I ask you, what’s on your bucket list?

Did you get into a relationship & put on weight?

I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who hadn’t started dating or got into a relationship without putting on weight. If you feel you have put on weight its not necessarily a bad thing. Maybe you was under weight beforehand or maybe not you look and feel much healthier; however, this post is for people who are unhappy about the weight they have put on since getting into a relationship.

Now this could be due to over indulging. During the early dating stages drinking at bars, eating out, ordering takeaways becomes the new norm. Once the relationship begins and you both get comfortable with each other the takeaways continue, going out stops and netflix & chill begins. Leaving the house and staying active no longer becomes a priority. At this point it gets hard losing weight by yourself. Motivation begins to fade, the time you could use to keep fit you’d rather spend with your partner and it’s hard to break habits. So I recommend if you’re serious about wanting to lose weight you have to have that conversation with your partner, be encouraging and do it together. Learn to cook together (this will also save money as we all end up with less money when we start dating), find activities you like doing together. It is easy to go eating and drinking but think outside the box; go hiking, walk around your local area, crazy golf, bowling, get creative making smoothies together. If you are both interested and willing to sign up for a gym that’s something you can do together on weekend mornings and still have the rest of the day to spend together.

Just something to think about.

To summaries, if you’ve noticed you’ve put on weight since being with your partner and you are unhappy about it, talk to each other and make a plan. You never known, keeping fit may add additional excitement to your relationship (added bonus).

Why you shouldn’t stay in that dead-end job

Statistics show we spend 13 years over a lifetime working and 11 years, 4 months staring at a screen (Huffpost Australia, 2017). That’s a huge amount of time we spend waking up and going to work repeatedly, day in, day out. Even worse if you are doing this whilst in a dead end job or in a job you can’t stand. So why allow yourself to continue living that way? Understandable in the world we life in today most of us can’t afford to just quit our jobs, make businesses, travel the world, do whatever we like (I applaud people who do). We have bills to pay, family liabilities etc; to summaries, we need money. Due to this leaving a job isn’t as easy as it sounds however life is to be enjoyed.

Spending this much time at work has a big impact on our health and lifestyle. The majority of us snack and put on weight, may have problems with management or colleges, even problems with the organisation overall. These have affects on us whether it enhances stress, triggers the lose of motivation or ambition, it happens.

Think about what you once wanted to do with your life; your deepest ambitions. Don’t settle for anything less. You may not be able to quit your job but you can move on, better your self professional and more importantly work on your happiness. If you can afford to quit your job, take time out to create a plan and draw up options in order to find something you really enjoy.

Being in a dead end job affects your mood and mental health so ask yourself if its worth your sanity. Older generations will say they have been in the same job for 20+ years but 90’s babies and below well probably go through 3-5 within the first 10 years of leaving college or university and I think its brilliant as we get a feel for what is out there, what we like and how we expect to be treated.

Don’t spend 13 years thinking what if.  

How to lose weight in the office

  • Substitute lunch breaks for time in the gym if you have a gym locally or within the building. If you have an hour for lunch, 20-30mins can be spent in the gym
  • Stop snacking. This will seem impossible at first however after a week has passed it will get easier to just stick to breakfast and lunch at work.
  • If you have tried and really cannot give up snacking. Swap crisps and chocolate for fruits, hummus, boiled eggs etc.
  • Lower tea and coffee intake
  • Get up for 10mins every hour and have a walk
  • Get your whole team involved in healthy eating; possibly make it into a competition
  • Early morning smoothies (homemade)
  • If you live local to work, forget public transport and begin to work to & from work (for the first 2 weeks start by walking home from work)
  • Find a work colleague who is willing to keep motivating you
  • Add the gym to your routine before or after work a few times a week
  • Manage lunch portions and the times you eat to avoid overeating
  • Check your work intranet for any health or fitness weeks or competitions you can get involved in

Period work out

The menstrual cycle controls our mood the whole month and we don’t even realise. The assumption that we cry and eat our feelings through the 7-day bleed (or however long) is not always correct.

Some symptoms may be present for the whole month whether physical or mental however they become more present the week before or the week of.

Mentally the cycle can bring on distress, anxiety, upset and mood swings. I don’t tend to have these signs but a week beforehand I tend to lose motivation and gain self-doubt and low mood. So how do I still manage to get to the gym?

It’s not easy. I’m very organised and stick to a routine. Due to the routine. The thought of sitting at home on my period doesn’t sit well with me. I’d end up feeling fat (due to the bloating) and blah that I let this get the better of me. So I just don’t sit around. I get up and keep life moving.

I’ve come to realise I feel a lot better when I go to the gym and keep active whilst on my period. I feel the need to keep my muscles moving and to take my mind of the situation. The aim is to keep my endorphins at a high in order to keep my well-being at bay. The downfall to going to the gym on my period is having to focus more on what I wear. I usually put on anything and go, but whilst on my period if the black leggings aren’t around I’m not going. If the leggings aren’t thick enough I’m not going. I don’t care whether the panty line is obvious, people in the gym shouldn’t be looking at me anyways but the key whilst on the period is to feel comfortable. This is a reason why a lot of women I know don’t go to the gym during this time however, think about the ways to get around it. My gym has a women-only section so that is my back-up if I begin to feel uncomfortable in general public (sounds like I’m talking about jail). I don’t do heavy weights and I tend to walk instead of run on the treadmill as during the week on period my legs get very weak to the point it looks like I’m shaking to stay standing.

Become adaptable and don’t use your period to sit at home feeling sorry for being a woman and complaining at men have it better than us. Keep it moving!

Don’t be on your phone all day

You miss the world when you’re constantly on your phone. Yes, you can catch up with daily events on news websites, social media etc but it isn’t the same as putting the phone down and having real experiences.

People seem to live on their phones nowadays. I’ve watched people be so consumed by their phones, they’ve walked into lamp posts, other people or nearly killed themselves crossing the road. How sad.

Before phones, if you wanted to see someone you had to either arrange a meeting from the last time you saw them or go to their house. It’s nice now being able to send a message or make a quick call but we are now fixated on our phones that we are not paying attention to what is happening around us. Even now, we sit down to chill with our friends and we’re on our phones.

This is probably why we are so ‘sensitive’ now as we want the appraisal of people we don’t know by updating pictures, commenting on people we don’t know, expecting the know celebrities lives better than we know our own neighbours.

Sometimes, especially when I get home from work I don’t want to be on my phone. I’ll put it on my bedside table and it would stay there all evening. To be away from the phone and have time to relax, read a book, listen to music, go to the gym, go on a walk, spend time with family are just a few things I like to do after work that we take for granted. We need to spend time detoxing instead of checking what’s new on Snapchat and Instagram.
Start getting back into the habit of living and try putting your phone on silent a few times a week as a cleanse.

Review: Skin care products

PROS

Refreshing for beginning or the day and end of the day use.
Feels like a deep cleanser with a water base.
I have oily skin so this provides a balance. Works slowly but surely to tone marks/scars.

CONS

I read a lot about this and saw loads of before and answer pictures from women in the US (this is a US product) and having tried that I know for sure not all those women purely used this to fight spots & acne.
Read it gets rid of blackhead and blemishes quickly but this wasn’t the case for me.

PROS

Good awakening feeling when using this in the morning; refreshing.
I have oily skin and a lot of products don’t agree with me but this takes away the constant shine and really gets into the pores.

CONS

None that I can think of. A great addition to the beauty routine.

PROS

Very effective in a short amount of time.
Feels like a deep clean.
I personally use the Biore Deep Pore Charcoal Cleanser in the morning and Biore Baking Soda! In the evening for an intense wash.
After 2 weeks I noticed it prevented reoccurring spots.
Nice foam texture.

CONS

Honestly, no cons that I can think of. I would recommend this product.

PROS

Nice texture.
Leaves the skin feeling refreshed.

CONS
Takes a long time (months) to notice any skin difference using this mask.

PROS

Big container and can easily last up to a year if used once a year as instructed.
Feels intense and really does get deep into the pores
Removes hidden dirt from the skin

CONS
It’s hard to get the ratio of powder to apple cider/water right.
Whether mixing with Apple Cider Vinegar or water after 2 minutes my skins feel like it’s burning. Be careful with this mask as it depends on skin type (like most products).
Preparing the mixture is messy.

PROS

Out of all the products I’ve reviewed, I’ve had this one the longest (beginning of the year) so it does last a long time.
As a 3 in 1 depending on how much time you have, it can either use it as a face wash or keep it on for longer to use as a mask.
The scrub partials while get to work on pores.
As mentioned on the label, it works effectively for oily skin.

CONS

I’ve used other products since purely because this hasn’t kept spots at bay.
No noticeable difference from before I used it in comparison to weeks afterwards.
As a mask, it is difficult to wash away from the skin.