At work, it is so easy to stay in your own bubble or to stay close in a tight ‘work squad’ and forget about other people. Do you ever take time to think about the people around you?
That person you think is being a ‘bitch’ or that person who’s always negative or quiet might be going through something whether in their personal or professional life. It doesn’t hurt and it doesn’t cost you anything to ask that person if they’re ok or if they might want to join you for lunch sometime. People always think what if and think they could have done more when it is too late. If you see signs that someone isn’t doing well, don’t stand back and wonder, step in and ask. A common sign would be a change in behaviour or someone becoming standoffish. Another common sign could be someone who is usually loud or constantly talking as that could be a coping mechanism; a way of taking their mind of what is happening in their life. People who suffer from mental health or have difficulties may keep things hidden especially at work. If you are someone who is not comfortable approaching someone that you don’t know, you can send them information via email of any mental health awareness news, posts or events that are coming up at work.
Once I graduated from Uni I went straight into office work. Like a typical graduate, I went straight into recruitment but I wasn’t on the phones thankfully, I was interviewing potential candidates. I had studied in a Hotel School so did back office work but being in an actual office environment was new to me and at the time I wasn’t that bothered about working at a desk all day. Being from a Hotel background I was used to being constantly on my feet, then going out with friends until 4 am.
It was my first job, straight out of Uni, working in busy Soho; I would go to work, socialise with friends on weekdays, work was never a barrier for me. At Uni I was so determined to get into Learning & Development so I always assumed office life would be it for me and no professionals at Uni told me otherwise.
Over the years I continued with office work. I began to realise office work wasn’t for me; I’ve gone from running around Hotels and working in Hospitality to now sitting behind a computer. In the office roles I’ve had, I never felt challenged and I always got through probation and all the tasks quicker than expected and I’m someone who needs to be kept on their toes. In all roles I’ve made good people, some I now consider as friends but being in my mid 20’s, working in an office is something I just can’t comprehend doing for the rest of my life.
I may have left Uni in 2015 but I’ve continued studying ever since to stand out in the world of Learning & Development but as I realised I had enough of office work, I started looking at other ways of accomplishing this goal. I wanted to be a trainer; hence why I went to a training school however I, unfortunately, fell into the corporate world.
After 4 years in an office environment, feeling unappreciated, depressed and overall in a dead-end environment I knew it was time for me to step away from the desk. I took time off (a month) to find what I wanted to do. Now…I’m a trainer and I don’t work in an office. Every day for me now is different and it’s honestly the first job I can honestly say I enjoy. I’ve found peace; I’m happier and I don’t miss sitting in an office, in fact, I can’t imagine going back to an office environment just yet. I like to keep motivated and keep my mind active but in the office, I felt like I was losing brain cells. I’ll soon return to office work for financial and career development but I would advise everyone to take time away from the office and try a new method.
Every role has its problems and everyone has days when we’d rather stay in bed but we spend nearly our whole lives working, so find your passion and a job that’s worth getting up and going to.
The world is filled with many opinions, but the only opinion that matters in life is your own.
Daily on social media, I constantly see people shaming each other and talking about people they know nothing about. We all at times find ourselves voicing our opinions on something we see online but shaming someone or in some cases trolling is beyond unnecessary and too extreme. It’s scary to think that one rude comment can get 1000 likes whereas on the other end we have no idea how the person is taking that comment; their feelings are rarely taken into account. I’ve always had tough skin but I can’t say the same thing for other people. We all take criticism in different ways and not everyone can brush off comments. We all feel and think differently.
The main thing to remember is that no one knows the real you and no one knows you better than yourself. In terms of the negativity that people throw your way, it’s best to take everything with a pinch of salt. Nowadays it seems like everything we do is being watched and needs acknowledging. I personally post on Instagram and look at stories but I rarely scroll through other’s profiles because I don’t want to feel like I am not good enough or the need to change or as if my way of life isn’t good enough. That’s my method of keeping online negativity out of my life.
Whether its fashion, influencers or anything in the limelight, I don’t read too much into it. Social media sales lies and dreams. People want to be like the Instagram models and celebrities they see but we have no idea what is happening behind the scenes. To be successful or happy in life you don’t need to have the most desirable clothing or change who you are to seem cool to others. Just do you. I have my own style and my own way of life that works for me and it also shows my personality. I don’t need to know what people say or think about me because I’m not going to change me for anyone else. I actually like me. People who sit on a laptop or phone belittling and trolling likely to have their own insecurities. Shut down other peoples voices and start listening to your own.